The Sacrament of Reconciliation is regularly scheduled Wednesday evenings at 6:30 p.m. and Saturdays at 3:30 - 4:30 p.m. You are also invited to make an appointment for a convenient time with a priest according to your schedule. The confessionals in the church offer both a screen for those who prefer privacy or a chair for “face to face” confessions.

How to Make a Good Confession

Before going to confession, one should examine their conscience to call to mind what sins they have committed since their last confession. Here are two samples that can be used.

Adult Examination of Conscience

Children’s Examination of Conscience

A sin is a voluntary transgression against God’s commands by thought, word or deed. Accidents, temptations, feelings and emotions are typically not voluntary, and therefore not sinful. However, temptations and strong emotions of anger, sadness and fear can be occasions of sin, and therefore, should be avoided. To place ourselves in an occasion of sin willingly is itself a sin.

All mortal sins remembered since one’s last confession must be confessed. A hidden mortal sin invalidates the sacrament, but a forgotten one does not. A mortal sin has all 3 of these characteristics: It must be grave matter; one must know it is grave matter at the time committed; one must commit the sin willingly (not being forced or pressured). All acts involving grave matter since one’s last confession should be mentioned to the priest by name.

Confession is primarily for confessing mortal sins. However, because we receive unique sacramental graces that help us to avoid the sins we confess, it is good to include our more persistent venial sins also. We should not become pre-occupied or scrupulous about listing every single venial sin we have committed, since God will forgive these smaller sins through our performing good works, acts of penance or simply by praying for forgiveness, especially after receiving Holy Communion.

In general, one should give only the name of the sin and the number of times committed. Try not to give any other details unless they change the nature of the sin. For instance, “I missed Sunday Mass twice because I was sick.” (A priest will excuse us from Mass attendance if our sicknesses warrants it).

Do not tell other people’s sins, name others, or identify anyone in the confessional. Often, trying to help the priest “understand one’s situation” is an unconscious attempt to justify oneself to the priest, and therefore, decreases the sacramental graces we receive. The more humbling our confession, the more healing we receive in addition to the forgiveness.

Short questions or advice can be asked after absolution is given. Longer questions should be addressed to the priest outside the confessional by phone or appointment.

Anointing of the Sick

The sacrament of Anointing of the Sick is administered to persons who are seriously ill or in danger of death through old age. It is also fitting for a person to receive the sacrament before a serious operation. Anointing should ideally take place well before the person is actually “dying” because the more they are able to participate in the sacrament, the greater its benefits. The priest’s Laying on of Hands (part of the full ceremony) can sometimes bring physical healing during an illness if God deems it necessary for their spiritual healing. The anointing is usually preceded by sacramental confession, if possible, and includes the reception of Holy Communion, if possible. Thus the sacrament brings forgiveness of sins, spiritual strength, the comfort of knowing one is at peace with God, as well as preparing the recipient to make a beautiful offering of their entire lives to God, an offering that is unique to them alone.

Anointing of the Sick

To receive this sacrament, please call the Parish Office and the secretary will take down your information so that a priest may contact you directly. After office hours, our answering service will take your call. The priest on duty will be paged. Please give your phone number slowly and clearly.


Please accept our sympathies at the death of your loved one. When someone has died, the first step is to contact a mortuary to prepare the body for the funeral rites. There are mortuaries advertised on the back of our weekly bulletin. Please specify Saint Hedwig as the church to hold the funeral Mass and to perform the Graveside Service. If Military Honors at the burial are desired, make this known to the mortuary so that they can arrange it.

Typically, the priest who is scheduled to be on duty the day of the funeral will perform the services and contact you for information about the deceased, informing the family of its options for participating at the funeral Mass and giving the family an overview of the entire proceedings.  

Please contact the parish office by phone 562-296-9000 or by email to be referred to one of our priests or deacons.

To expedite the process you can download the attached form and email this to us at

Vigil Service

If a Vigil Service is desired, it may take the form of a Scripture service, recitation of the Rosary or both. The Vigil Service usually takes place with the body of the deceased present at the mortuary on the evening preceding the Funeral Mass. This service is typically conducted by a Bereavement Minister of the parish.

Saint Hedwig will be hosting vigil services, rosaries, or viewings. Funeral Masses are now held inside the church.

Eulogies and Words of Remembrance

The preferred places for Eulogies by family members and friends is at the Vigil Service or Graveside Service, not at the Funeral Mass. These words of remembrance are most effective when they do not try to be a complete history of the individual and from three to five minutes in length each.


The Church prefers that cremation take place after the Funeral Mass. If this is not possible, the Church allows for the Funeral Mass to be celebrated with the cremated remains of the body present. Cremated remains are to be treated with the same respect given to the human body. This includes the use of a worthy vessel/urn which is to be buried in a grave or entombed in a mausoleum. Scattering the cremated remains, keeping them at home or dividing them up among family members is not allowed.

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